Child Abandonment

In law, the term “abandonment” may be used in a variety of legal issues, from contract law to real estate law, referring to the giving up or renunciation of an interest, privilege, possession, or right, with the intent of never reclaiming it. As the term applies to matters of Family Law, an individual may abandon a marriage, spouse, child, or property. While abandonment of a marriage or marital property is a civil matter to be dealt with in family court, abandonment of a child may also be a criminal offense for which the individual may face criminal charges. To explore this concept, consider the following child abandonment definition.

Definition of Abandonment

Noun

  1. The giving up or withdrawal of support from something or someone
  2. The act of leaving or deserting a person or property

Origin

1325-1375        Middle French abandoner

Types of Child Abandonment

Child abandonment occurs when a child’s parent or guardian willfully withholds emotional, physical, and financial support, with no regard for the child’s safety and welfare. This may include physical abandonment, such as leaving a child somewhere with no intent to return for him, or it may include failure to provide physical supervision, emotional support, and other necessities of life for a child living in the home. So-called “latchkey kids” may, in extreme cases, be considered abandoned by their working or otherwise absent parents.

Under the law, many parental behaviors lead to charges of child abandonment, including:

  • Leaving an infant on a doorstep, in a trash can, or on the side of the road
  • Being absent from the home for a period of time long enough to create substantial risk of harm to a child left in the home
  • Leaving a child with another person without providing for the child’s support, and with no meaningful communication with the child or caregiver for a period specified by statute, usually three months
  • Failing to maintain regular visitation with a child for a period of at least six months
  • Making only token efforts to support and communicate with a child
  • Refusing, or being unwilling, to provide supervision, care, and support for a child
  • Failing to participate in a parenting plan or program designed to reunite the parent with the child
  • Failing to respond to official notice of child protective or child custody proceedings

Child Abandonment Laws

Laws regarding child safety and welfare, abandonment, and abuse vary from state to state, though in most states child abuse and child abandonment laws go hand-in-hand. In many states, child abandonment is considered a felony, even if the child has not been physically harmed by the abandonment. Other states classify child abandonment as a misdemeanor, unless specifics of the crime suggest it should be raised to the level of a felony.

Criminal child abandonment is often defined as physically leaving a child somewhere, though it may also include failing to provide for the child’s basic needs, such as shelter, food, clothing, and medical care. As with child abuse, child physical abandonment is subject to mandatory reporting by professionals defined by state law. Such mandated reporters include medical personnel, counselors or psychiatric care providers, teachers, and other professionals in close contact with children

Emotional Abandonment

Although the child abandonment laws describe certain acts that constitutional non-physical abandonment of children, the truth is, emotional abandonment is subjective. Any act or failure to act that leaves a child feeling unwanted, discarded, or insecure may be considered emotional abandonment under the laws of child safety and welfare.

Experts in child psychology have found that, in a child’s eyes, abandonment is more about the parent’s absence and failure to communicate or take an active role in his life, than any financial considerations. Many children feel it is their fault, and experience feelings of low self worth and shame. Because emotional abandonment by a parent has the potential to cause a lifetime of issues for the child, it is taken very seriously by the courts.

Termination of Parental Rights

Parents have a constitutionally protected right to raise, protect, and educate their children. Such rights generally include physical custody of the child, the right to prevent adoption of a child, the right to educate and discipline the child, and the right to control and manage the minor child’s income and property. When parents fail to provide for the child’s welfare and safety, however, their rights to parent the child may be terminated by the court.

While laws vary from state to state, each recognizes specific circumstances that create an unsafe environment for a child. The most common reasons for termination of parental rights include:

  • Abandonment of the child
  • Severe or persistent abuse or neglect
  • Abuse or neglect of other children in the home
  • Physical or sexual abuse
  • Long term mental illness of a parent
  • Long term drug or alcohol abuse by a parent
  • Failure to maintain contact with, or support of, a child
  • Having rights to another child terminated involuntarily

One parent’s rights may be terminated without affecting the rights of the other parent. In the event parental rights are taken from both parents, legal custody of the child lies with the State, which then bears the responsibility for finding a suitable placement of the child.

Requirements for Termination of Parental Rights

The parent-child relationship is seen, in the eyes of the law, to be a fundamental right afforded to all parents. Because of this, the process of terminating parental rights is protracted and difficult, and the court will only grant a termination in rare cases. The burden of proof for involuntary termination of parental rights is very high, requiring clear and convincing evidence that at least one of the following applies:

  • Abandonment. A parent intentionally forsakes his duties to the child, failing to accept responsibility for the child’s financial, emotional, and physical support.
  • Failure to provide parental support. A parent repeatedly or continually neglects basic parental duties such as the provision of food, shelter, clothing, and education, or caring for the child’s physical and emotional needs.
  • Failure to provide financial support. A parent that has been ordered to pay financial support for a child continually fails to do so, despite being financially able to do so.
  • Foster care placement. A parent fails to correct conditions that resulted in a child being placed in foster care.

Child Abandonment Statistics

Each year in the United States, more than 3 million reports of child abandonment, child neglect, and child abuse are reported, these statistics touching the lives of more than 6 million children. This makes the United States one of the worst among industrialized nations for child abandonment and abuse.

Studies have shown that adults who report having 6 or more harmful or detrimental experiences in their childhood have a life expectancy shortened by 20 years. Child abuse, neglect, and abandonment are tied to increased incidence of such life-altering diseases as ischemic heart disease, liver disease, and chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (“COPD”).

Related Legal Terms and Issues

  • Necessities of Life – The bare essentials needed for survival, or to maintain a minimum standard of living.
  • Parenting Plan – A detailed proposal for custody and care of a child, including scheduled time the child will spend with each parent.
  • Child Custody Proceedings – Legal proceedings for the purpose of determining custody of a child, as well as the rights and responsibilities of the parents to the child.
  • Mandated Reporter – An individual required by law to report suspected child abuse or abandonment; usually professionals that have regular contact with children.

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Denise Smith
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I am at wits end the mother if my grandchild does not financially emotionally or physically take care of him but gets all the help from welfare she sees him 3 to 7 days a month disappears for long period of time then we have to give him back or we will be held in contempted the other day she actually asked whats size shoe he wears ??? Omg are you kidding me my son buys all his clothes school supplies and struggles every day i turn the mother gets section 8 living with a man and foodstamps how do… Read more »
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C.Cler
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I just read your story, it makes me sick that anyone especially a so called mother would treat their child that way. I know this is not the legal thing to do, but my first instinct is to beat some sense into her dumb ass! I know people will probably jump all over me for saying that. But I can not be the only person that feels this way. Im sorry your family has been put in this position I would recommend at the very least looking into Grandparents Rights in your state. You can any least get some info… Read more »
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Colleen Mccarter
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I started dating a man and within 6 months his daughter was living with me. He has never lived with us. It has been 3yrs now. He does not pay child support. Her living conditions were so bad, that’s why I suggested that she stay with me. He keeps threatening to come get her. I have a noterized guardianship. That’s all. What can I do?

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Diane Foster
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Colleen McCarty how did I go about getting a notarized gaurdianshio

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Dan Smith
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Give the child his rights to a mother and father. Your story is BS.

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T. Haga
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And quite often this is a result of YOUR very own relationship and how YOU raised your daughter. Bet u two were either A. Not very close or communicative with one another OR B. You babied the hell out of her and she never learned RESPONSIBILITY. SO, which one would you agree was the demon in her upbringing? I’m curious as to where she learned such neglectful behavior? Loving parents tend to pass down traits that continue to exemplify love and nurturing. i’ll wait on an honest response…..
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Denise Smith
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Fitst of if you are replying to my story she is not my daughter my children no responsibility and know respect my son has fought and fought for his rights we have a whole binder of pictures of brusies. Rashes hebwas just in hospital for a staph infection because of her evil cat and while he was therevwe were informed he now has lyme disease i have filed complaint after complaint to get charged with harrassment charges and sit 12 hours in jail what is it going to take his death ?????? If you have a better idea you let… Read more »
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Janet Hamil
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Good job, grandma! Whoever that was posted an idiotic response. Keep up the good work. Again, don’t go to the Police or CPS to ask for custody…go to a lawyer & straight into court

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Denise Smith
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Thank you janet for the praise and i will keep fighting to protect my grandson and my son from this evil dangerous women who uses her children for a meal ticket she better always look both ways because im always watching

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Janet Hamil
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I hope you have found an answer by now but if you haven’t, find a lawyer. You don’t need to go through CPS to gain custody. Go get a lawyer. You don’t need the best or the most expensive. Get your journal together & walk into a child custody lawyer & you or your son will walk away with custody

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JErwin
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My Fiance divorced and the papers state he has reasonable custody/visitation. His ex has never allowed him to see them unless he spends the night there with them. He only did once and refused the other times because he should be allowed to take them out to eat for his visits. All they do is fight in front of the kids. CWS was called on her by the school and they started an investigation. She doesn’t provide sufficient food, clothing, love or support to the kids. Sadly, in his son’s IEP, it stated that he comes to school dirty, in… Read more »
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Angie
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A visit with a family attorney usually is free for the first visit. They can usually talk to you for an hour and give you advice on if they can take the case and what needs to happen. If they cannot take the case they can usually lead you to someone who can. Take everything with you that you have, papers, court docs etc. You can always go to several different attorneys to see who you will click with since this is such an important issue for you. I hope this heps

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Johann
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I would love to hear an advice to any lawyer out there. My father faked her marraige to my Mother and end up with two kids before my mother found out. My father abandoned us and went to America while my brother was 2 years of ages and I was still in my Mother’s womb. We never really had any communication and he never really had reach out to us until I am 37 years old now and living in Singapore. I wanted to file and abandonment to my father and make him pay for what he did to us.… Read more »
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Cindy morris
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I want to do the same thing to my father whom abandon me and four sliblings at a very early age. He got a job with Aramco oil company moved to Saudi Arabia. His new wives family didn’t know we existed nor his company in which he had excellent Benefits and made good money . He is now 82 and lives in United States. We all suffered and my mother never completely recovered. PTSD , depression, anxiety etc. wish we all could get compensation for the abandonment and abuse we endured.

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Sandra
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My daughter adopted her son out of foster care at the age of 3. He is now 16 and has put her and the other 3 children with emotional trauma. He has been placed temporarily with family but stealing, lying and drugs continue. She has been told if she relinquished parental control that she can be charged with abandonment. just trying to find out if this is correct and if so what would follow legally.

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SingleMom
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My situation in child abandonment is my child’s father is always in and out of the child’s life, shows little to no interest in the child’s life or well being, refuses to pay support, says since child lives with me its my responsibility to provide. He disappears months at a time and out of the blue says he’s coming to get them and wants joint, the sons last name changed, pay no support yet live with me. How is any of that fair to the child if he’s not involved? And how can I help the child? Legal aid was… Read more »
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Irene
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I’m a single mother as well but last year was the worst possible year for me but when I became homeless I tried to give the children to him but he said no it was my responsibility to care for them and to support them but I couldn’t find a job nor find a place to live so I decided to make a change because of my circumstances so I discuss this with him and I ask him if it’s alright to go to Ohio where I have family that loves them but I told him to be fair he… Read more »
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Jeremy
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Recently, my ex fiance destroyed destroyed a 7-year relationship by cheating on me with multiple co-workers. four-year-old son was in the middle of all of it. She kicked me out of the house so the new boyfriend could move in. I found out from one of the neighbors that our son has a tendency to wander out of the house and into their yard on a regular basis. Most recently he wandered into the neighbor’s house and locked himself in there sunroom. She was mowing the law she was mowing the lawn, and the boyfriend was paying no attention to… Read more »
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Jean Worthy
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The father of my child has been absent from his life for 12 years. He has not seen my child since he was 1 years old. Around Jan of this year he reach out to try to connect with his son. My son now being 13 years old he said no I have nothing to say. Weeks later I get summons to court he wants parenting time visitation schedule. We went to court the judge told him I’m not going to allow you to just pop back up in this child life after all this time. The judge say you… Read more »
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Betty Brown
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My sons ex girlfriend and mother of His and hers daughter, has been gone for 18 months and one year of that she’s had no contact with any of her children. The oldest with me the grama is five, went thru bunches of turmoil from her mom leaving and not contacting her. Now she’s back and demanding to see her. Within the year and a half she was gone, her then six month old daughter has been taken away due to abandonment, her last is 5 months old and he was born outside the hospital in her car and she… Read more »
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dlwinters
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I have a granddaughter who recently had a beautiful little boy. However, she has mental disorders ( un-diagnosed Bi-Polar) and severe behavior problems causing her to leave her baby with me for days at a time and does not call, come see him or care of his well being. He is 5 mo. and has only had approx. 7 – 8 nights away from his bed in my home. I have had to be responsible for finding a babysitter for mornings I have to work. She yells and screams in the mornings because she does not want to get up… Read more »
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cora
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My son is four yr old he’ll be five in Jan. He has not seen his real father since he was 6 1/2 mos old. I left him bc he was physical abusive to me and my other children and was doing drugs. Last i saw him he took off cause i called the cops on him for hitting me. Anyway, he has contacted me once and it was more about him than my son. He just got off drug probation a month ago and now his wife contacted me telling me i better get ready for a lawyer. My… Read more »
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Ashley
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My husband has had his daughter since the day she was born shes 4 years old now we have not seen or heard from the mother in over 3 years now but now the biological mother wants to get custody of the child and take her away from my husband and I. My husband and I have done everything for his daughter I am the only mother she has ever known. What can we do so that we don’t lose her? Would filing for custody or child support be better or is there something else we should do?

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Colleen Mccarter
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You can try filing a SAPCR form that you can get from any law library.

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Belinda
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What is a Sapcr form?

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Will
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Suit Affecting the Parent – Child Relationship
A law suit to be entered in order to address the needs of a child. It covers all the decisions that will be made for the child/children

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Mark
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I have a question we have joint custody I was the non custodial parent but recently since July she just dumped the kids on me both of them and hasn’t done anything for them does it consider abondening them only thing is she does provide for the school trough calw works and receive cash aid when she doesn’t have them and doesn’t provide with food or clothes or visits what should I do?

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Mark
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So the mother just left the kids and bounced since July and she receives calworks and cash aid and food stamps but does not provide for us and she hasn’t seen them in almost 3 months what do I do

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Beth
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My son (soon to be 18) and his girlfriend (15) found out that they are expecting a baby. The girl has been living in my home for a little over 5 months now. All of a sudden he parents are wanting her to come live with 1 of them be it the father or the mother just not in my home. My husband and I have been married for 22 years and have a Good stable home. her father is rarely home and mentally and verbally abusive and her mother is an alcoholic and can be physically and mentally abusive.… Read more »
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Anonymous
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Hi I’m 17 and I have a stepdad who wants to adopt me. We want to get the papers signed however, my biological father refuses to sign the papers. I’m wondering if he actually has any rights though because he’s not had any contact with us since I was 4. When he was supposed to watch me he used to leave me alone at the house when I was a baby. He went to jail for violating restraining orders along with other things. He is on my birth certificate though so with all of this, do you think I will… Read more »
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Jig
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My ex wife has custody of our two children. But my children have lived with me for the past three years. She doesnt call and check on them. they have only seen her a handfull of times in these three years. She never attempts to contact me or help financially with the kids. The past two years she even kept the tax money she received for the kids. She stays in trouble and is currently in jail. I have many many people including her own mother and family that would confirm everything ive said. I was told i could speek… Read more »
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Lisa Jolstad
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When my daughter was two her father decided he Wanted parenting time with my daughter. And he failed to complete his visitation everyorher weekend with her. And now it’s almost 5 years since he has seen her. He has never contributed to any thing for her. And when he left 5 years ago she was emotionally affected by that really bad. Does the state of minnesota look at that? And would they terminate his rights to her? He wants to take me back to court which I’m fine with but my biggest concern is he’s going to abandon her again… Read more »
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april
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Have been with my fiance for almost 5 years. He has a 13 year old son and about 3-4 years ago his mother just up and left. all attempts to contact her have never been answered. we plan to marry soon, and my fiance has never legally filed for full custody. my question is this, does anyone know if he would need to petition for her to lose legal rights and would i need to file for guardianship? this has caused this child a lot of emotional and mental issues. he has mild asbergers, anxiety and possible adhd, and of… Read more »
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Bere campos
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My wife dies and we had 2 kids. She died of cancer and it resulted in me staying with thanks by myself. I had to start wokingn2 jobs to be able to maintain rent and food in the house. This resulted in me asking my wife’s mom for a lot of help. She took advantage and in school she write herself as the mom and I was not even in the emergency contact what so ever. She also applies for social security and said I was never around basically as if I was dead too. I did work a lot… Read more »
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mimi16
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I left my son with his father and grandparents in California. I gave the grandparents power of attorney. they have moved to Texas and the father is placing my under abandonment. I hardly have contact with my son due too the father always working and the grandparents don’t care to answer my calls or texts. is there a way I can file for shared custody. and how long is a power of attorney good for?

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Darla Padilla
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So I am curious what if say in my case my aunt doesnt let me see my child even though i pay child support and have a court order but always takes it upon her self to not let me see her I have not left her she just makes it impossible for me to see her what can i do she has made my daughter think that we don’t wnat nothing to do with her but thats not true its been a horrible situation I got in trouble and turned my life around and got all my other kids… Read more »
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Christopher Forker
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my ex wife left my two daughters with me and left the state with her new husband. She had majority custody until the new husband made sexual advances towards one of my daughters. my oldest daughter has been living with me for 3 years but I continued to pay child support. Now that she has handed over my youngest daughter and has left the state, is it possible to get full custody?

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Crystal Swaim
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My stepdaughters mother has not had contact with her since may 2017 she recently came over and apologized to saidsaid daughter and we have been civil. About a week ago she didn’t like someone that was a gate our home and called the cops and my step daugher didn’t want room go with her so they made her go with her grandma. How Is this even legal

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Joani
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My nephews have been abandoned by both mom and dad. One is 9 the other 2. Its been rough trying to help them deal with the situation. Dhs was involved but now my mother their grandmother has them legally. The 2 yr old has been having crazy meltdowns when i go anywhere. Like hitting the door almost making himself puke no calming him till i return. Very heartbreaking!! Any ideas to help ease him?? Heartbroken aunt needs help understanding and helping him overcome this problem

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Alexis pacecca
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I’m 15 Turning 16 next Friday I’ve been living with my boyfriend and his mom for the past 7-8 months I never hear from my mom unless she wants something she doesn’t support or provide for me, I want to get emancipated but my mom has all custody and I haven’t been able to get a job or a even go to the doctor because my mom has to get all my stuff social security card birth certificate etc and I can’t go to the doctor without her and my boyfriends mom has provided for me since I’ve lived there… Read more »
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jennifer bridges
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nine years ago I was charged with child endangerment since then I have been clean and for the last two or more years have had my child 50 50 and now want primary custody back due to psychological abuse and threats anytime he wants to keep her from me I was wondering what my chances are to regain primary custody of my now 11 year old daughter who lives in fear of him keeping her from me for everytime he doesn’t get his way he threatens not only me but her as well I still have my parental rights legally… Read more »
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Jonathan Lambert
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what if I was with a girl I loved she left in 2004 and child born in 03 and each time I tried to reach out for anything whether support or visits it was No cooperation ever. Even now he is 14 and I have no rights because she somehow got me for abandonment involuntarily took my rights plus I don’t know for certain if he is biologically mine. I am about to pay $3500 to start this process and she is unwilling to cooperate I spoke with her Saturday first time since 07 by phone. I have reached out… Read more »
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Barb Leaveck
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I am the gramma to a 7 year old boy that his mother left approx. 6 years ago. NO contact,NO support and not even 1 attempt to contact him. I am trying to find out how we can legally take away any of her parental rights. I have been told to contact a lawyer and that this could be an abandonment case. My son has never made a move to do anything because he does not want to bring the mother back into the picture. She has remarried, has another child, pays child support for the daughter she left and… Read more »
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crystal gaydos
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I was pregnant with my son it’s going on 9 years now I tried getting his father to come see him he tells me he will but then never does my son is so messed up cause of this I have been with my husband for 7 years and my son knows him as his father how do I get my son’s father abandonment he is has feelings and the father don’t know anything about his son at all what do I do

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