Child Abandonment

In law, the term “abandonment” may be used in a variety of legal issues, from contract law to real estate law, referring to the giving up or renunciation of an interest, privilege, possession, or right, with the intent of never reclaiming it. As the term applies to matters of Family Law, an individual may abandon a marriage, spouse, child, or property. While abandonment of a marriage or marital property is a civil matter to be dealt with in family court, abandonment of a child may also be a criminal offense for which the individual may face criminal charges. To explore this concept, consider the following child abandonment definition.

Definition of Abandonment

Noun

  1. The giving up or withdrawal of support from something or someone
  2. The act of leaving or deserting a person or property

Origin

1325-1375        Middle French abandoner

Types of Child Abandonment

Child abandonment occurs when a child’s parent or guardian willfully withholds emotional, physical, and financial support, with no regard for the child’s safety and welfare. This may include physical abandonment, such as leaving a child somewhere with no intent to return for him, or it may include failure to provide physical supervision, emotional support, and other necessities of life for a child living in the home. So-called “latchkey kids” may, in extreme cases, be considered abandoned by their working or otherwise absent parents.

Under the law, many parental behaviors lead to charges of child abandonment, including:

  • Leaving an infant on a doorstep, in a trash can, or on the side of the road
  • Being absent from the home for a period of time long enough to create substantial risk of harm to a child left in the home
  • Leaving a child with another person without providing for the child’s support, and with no meaningful communication with the child or caregiver for a period specified by statute, usually three months
  • Failing to maintain regular visitation with a child for a period of at least six months
  • Making only token efforts to support and communicate with a child
  • Refusing, or being unwilling, to provide supervision, care, and support for a child
  • Failing to participate in a parenting plan or program designed to reunite the parent with the child
  • Failing to respond to official notice of child protective or child custody proceedings

Child Abandonment Laws

Laws regarding child safety and welfare, abandonment, and abuse vary from state to state, though in most states child abuse and child abandonment laws go hand-in-hand. In many states, child abandonment is considered a felony, even if the child has not been physically harmed by the abandonment. Other states classify child abandonment as a misdemeanor, unless specifics of the crime suggest it should be raised to the level of a felony.

Criminal child abandonment is often defined as physically leaving a child somewhere, though it may also include failing to provide for the child’s basic needs, such as shelter, food, clothing, and medical care. As with child abuse, child physical abandonment is subject to mandatory reporting by professionals defined by state law. Such mandated reporters include medical personnel, counselors or psychiatric care providers, teachers, and other professionals in close contact with children

Emotional Abandonment

Although the child abandonment laws describe certain acts that constitutional non-physical abandonment of children, the truth is, emotional abandonment is subjective. Any act or failure to act that leaves a child feeling unwanted, discarded, or insecure may be considered emotional abandonment under the laws of child safety and welfare.

Experts in child psychology have found that, in a child’s eyes, abandonment is more about the parent’s absence and failure to communicate or take an active role in his life, than any financial considerations. Many children feel it is their fault, and experience feelings of low self worth and shame. Because emotional abandonment by a parent has the potential to cause a lifetime of issues for the child, it is taken very seriously by the courts.

Termination of Parental Rights

Parents have a constitutionally protected right to raise, protect, and educate their children. Such rights generally include physical custody of the child, the right to prevent adoption of a child, the right to educate and discipline the child, and the right to control and manage the minor child’s income and property. When parents fail to provide for the child’s welfare and safety, however, their rights to parent the child may be terminated by the court.

While laws vary from state to state, each recognizes specific circumstances that create an unsafe environment for a child. The most common reasons for termination of parental rights include:

  • Abandonment of the child
  • Severe or persistent abuse or neglect
  • Abuse or neglect of other children in the home
  • Physical or sexual abuse
  • Long term mental illness of a parent
  • Long term drug or alcohol abuse by a parent
  • Failure to maintain contact with, or support of, a child
  • Having rights to another child terminated involuntarily

One parent’s rights may be terminated without affecting the rights of the other parent. In the event parental rights are taken from both parents, legal custody of the child lies with the State, which then bears the responsibility for finding a suitable placement of the child.

Requirements for Termination of Parental Rights

The parent-child relationship is seen, in the eyes of the law, to be a fundamental right afforded to all parents. Because of this, the process of terminating parental rights is protracted and difficult, and the court will only grant a termination in rare cases. The burden of proof for involuntary termination of parental rights is very high, requiring clear and convincing evidence that at least one of the following applies:

  • Abandonment. A parent intentionally forsakes his duties to the child, failing to accept responsibility for the child’s financial, emotional, and physical support.
  • Failure to provide parental support. A parent repeatedly or continually neglects basic parental duties such as the provision of food, shelter, clothing, and education, or caring for the child’s physical and emotional needs.
  • Failure to provide financial support. A parent that has been ordered to pay financial support for a child continually fails to do so, despite being financially able to do so.
  • Foster care placement. A parent fails to correct conditions that resulted in a child being placed in foster care.

Child Abandonment Statistics

Each year in the United States, more than 3 million reports of child abandonment, child neglect, and child abuse are reported, these statistics touching the lives of more than 6 million children. This makes the United States one of the worst among industrialized nations for child abandonment and abuse.

Studies have shown that adults who report having 6 or more harmful or detrimental experiences in their childhood have a life expectancy shortened by 20 years. Child abuse, neglect, and abandonment are tied to increased incidence of such life-altering diseases as ischemic heart disease, liver disease, and chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (“COPD”).

Related Legal Terms and Issues

  • Necessities of Life – The bare essentials needed for survival, or to maintain a minimum standard of living.
  • Parenting Plan – A detailed proposal for custody and care of a child, including scheduled time the child will spend with each parent.
  • Child Custody Proceedings – Legal proceedings for the purpose of determining custody of a child, as well as the rights and responsibilities of the parents to the child.
  • Mandated Reporter – An individual required by law to report suspected child abuse or abandonment; usually professionals that have regular contact with children.

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Karen
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Would it be considered abandonment if i was to leave my 4 year old with her fther for a weekend while i go to canada to visit my fiance with my youngest daughter?

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Karen
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Would it be possible for him to accuse me of abandoning her?

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Tamara
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If there is a visitation schedule ruled by judge agreed to specific dates then no. If your ex is already expressing child abandonment threats that couldnt bode well for your 4yr old to be in his care. If he is resentful and angry about visitation you need to request monitored supervised visitation and more importantly express a deep and evident cause for concern regarding the saftey and well being of your 4yr old. The cost of resentment or retalliation for your vacation to see your new fiance might end up costing you your child in cases like this. So seek… Read more »
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Arlenen Gutierrez
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Is it consider abandoning your children if you leave your 2 children from previous relationship your mother to bring your girlfriend and your baby. And have no communication what so ever

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Blaze Dugan
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Would it be abandonment if my daughters mom leaves our child with me because she is constantly without a home. She has done this more than once. Sometimes it’s been for months

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Tamara
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Yes. Not to mention how hurtful confusing and terrifying it must be to that chikd. Seek immediate legal counsel establish dates of her interaction custody and absence the child back and forth is at risk. Have you verified by inspecting mothers shelter provisions for your child prior to her release from your custody to hers? This is imperative and shows true concern and regard fir chikd and well being. This child is not a toaster oven or a cd or even a pet you both care for. This child any and evety child deserves stability and not to be torn… Read more »
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Katie
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It depends on the state but in California, leaving a child with the other parent or a custodian while maintaining an effort to support and/or connect with the child is not abandonment. To be considered abandonment there needs to be no contact, or only token contact, for a year with no effort to maintain the parental relationship (CA FAM ss7822). Merely leaving a child in a better living environment doesn’t constitute abandonment, as that parent is acting in the best interest of the child.

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Sarah
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My husband and I are separated and he is moved out. I don’t know where he is staying and he hasn’t contacted me about our 14 month old son for 3and a half weeks, is this considered abandonment?

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Tamara
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Not yet. Three months is abandonment however..leaving wife and child without resources if he was the sole support for food and shelter is abandonment child neglect child abuse and is punishable by law.

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Michelle
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I have raised a baby from 3 days old for 15 out of 16 months without much contact from birth mother is my case a possible abandonment case eventually?

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Tamara
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A long time ago and still yes abandonment if the mother neither provides visits or checks on child also no interaction or visitation is the mother collecting benefits and holding onto ties with child so as to retain benefits depriving chikd of services? Call social services chikdrens services establish guardianship and get benefits for child and establish the shit or get off the pot scenario now. Either yiu want to be the mommy or you do not this child will call someone stable mommy and this may hurt biological mothers pocketbook or her feelings doubtful there are any but for… Read more »
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Clyde
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Can my mom say I abandon my thirteen year old cause she called her to come get her after making false Cps report and I let her stay a week and was in contact with child and made sure had money

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Tamara
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No and tell the dept of childrens services you gave temporary permission to allow child to go cool down but you shouldnt give your 13yr old that kind of power or alow your mother to be the savior. If your 13yr old is defiant report to counselor go to fsmiky guidance also call your local sherrif express concerns ask questions and by the way you will always have authority to call police to help assist you in bringing your chikd back home should your mother overstep boundries or your child, the sooner the better get yiur child back home dobt… Read more »
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Clyde
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Thk u so much yes I got her back I called my cousin who is a police officer in another town and he also gave me a lot of good advice she’s still being a little smart elic on something’s but has improved alot

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Clyde
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Yes sounds to me very much so with all I read!!

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Cal
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Is there Any Real Attorneys out there who care about other people’s children? Mine are practically grown, however;The Mother flys off to Mexico (5x) now without my knowledge & totally disregards Court Orders @ her discretion. Marital home remains in my name after awarded to her 2011…
It’s 2017 now…..Utilities constantaly shut off, book rental & lunches neglected to protray dad as “deadbeat dad”. Special place in hell for this Mother I hope!! Kids are 18/13 now…
The father has Always been current on CS; clean record, & maintains 17+yr job
Non drinker non smoker

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Gene
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Would it be abandonment.my grand baby been with me for 6 mouth mom is on meth. Bad she won’t come and see her or call she send text given me hell or my son he on meth to need ask about grand baby.

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Karen
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My grandson is living in a very nasty home is being hit by his stepmother with a spoon and by his stepmothers father using his cane to hit him in the head. He is made to stay in his room more than not.His bio moms boyfriend was convicted of child abuse last year.He lives with his dad and stepmother bio mom hasn’t had any contact with him since boyfriend found guilty.When he is allowed to visit he doesn’t want to go back because he says they hit him and that the house is filthy with trash and dog feces and… Read more »
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Tamara
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Call childrens services they will investigate also request guardianship till they proove its saf3.

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Chris
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Mother of my daughter 7. Left state fl. Never married/no custody agreement gone Over yr.tring to take her to ga.next Mth..what do I do

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Alan
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So if my wife found a man went on a date with him, and stayed the night at his house and every night for the past 12 days increasing the time she spends with him, and less time with her husband and child, and gone 2 to three days at a time with out talking to her child.. We are separating and I am wanting a dissolution, my child wants to move with me and she wants the house, we will be moving an hour away to live with my family.

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Amanda
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Would it be abandonment if my husband has left the state for 5 months and has not tried to contact me at all about our 2 children

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Naomi
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My ex husband left me with a 9 month old later on He married another woman and left to USA. my kid now is 11years and I have never received even a single dollar from him. A family friend send me the ex no and when I contacted him he blocked me am jobless my mum used to help me but unfortunately she passed away last year life has been very difficult. am Naomi from Kenya

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Beverly Kenniston
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Our daughter had her first son at age 20 and never took care of him because she lived with me, so she just up and went out as she pleased dispute my concerns. Now she’s 32 just recently divorced after 41/2 yrs of marriage ( she cheated for over a year). She and the two grandsons moved in with her dad and I. We agreed to watch the boys when she worked. Now she’s found herself a new boyfriend and has moved in with him. She will go for 2-3 weeks without seeing the boys, who are both autistic. Could… Read more »
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Christen
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My sister dropped her kids off with me a week ago and hasnt made any effort to check on them. Ive sent message after message and no reply. I have seen texts between her and mutual friends where she is planning to dip out on her kids to be with her fugitive boyfriend. She said she is not coming back for her kids. Is it too soon to get her for abandonment? I want custody of these babies asap.. Someone please point me in the right direction here!!

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Marilyn
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My daughter passed away I have guardian of my grandchildren the oldest one is 14 has had no contact since he was 2 can I get his dad’s rights taken away

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Crystal Gardner
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Basically my husband has been gone for about a month he has physical custody of our 👪 and I have visitation we were living together with friends and three months ago we all found out that we had to move out and he knew this his whole problem was following the rules of the house and would get upset and leave for days at a time one it was for 11days now this time around it’s been longer he has the cash and food stamps I get only foodstamps and just recently got approved for a job he knew I… Read more »
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Nicole
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My ex takes our son to the city pool he’s 12years old. While he was there the pool shut down for cleaning. They sent my son to the park next door. My son called his dad and was informed just stay put he would come pick up after him and his girlfriend got done with their movie, 2.5-3 hours later.

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Julius
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Hello, my wife left for Australia July 2015 and left me with a son aged 1.3months ,hes now 3yrs.she has never been supporting in anyway but she calls to check on us.she came back to Kenya two weeks ago without my knowledge, came to the house picked the boy by force from the house girl and headed to in-laws home. She blocked all my communication to her. Can childrens court grant me the custodian as the lady want to fly back to Australia, can she fly with the kid without my consent?

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Brieann Sears
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Ok so I have 5 kids total my two oldest aren’t my fiance’s my oldest boys are 11 and 10 their biological father left when my 10 year old was 4 months old he has never called them or even tried to see them he doesn’t even pay child support is that enough to get legal counsel to file child abandonment and strip him of his rights my two oldest wants my fiance to adopt them and they want his last name me and my fiance have been together for over 8 years my two oldest only know him as… Read more »
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Brieann Sears
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Ok so I have 5 kids my two oldest who are 11 and 10 aren’t my fiancé’s my two oldest biological father left when my 10 year old was 4 months old he’s never called them he’s never tried to even see them can i file for child abandonment I filed for child support in 07 in 08 they court ordered him to pay 313 a month and he hasn’t ever paid they finally caught him 2 years ago for back child support they gave him a low bond caise he said he would start paying well he hasn’t they… Read more »
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Nikki
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My ex hasn’t been around his kids but one time in there life they are now 9 and 10 he is not on the birth certificate do to the fact i was 15 years old for my first child and 16 for my second and he wasn’t around then I really need to know whAt i can do for child support but with out visitation cause my kids don’t know him.

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Nikki
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I need help for a couple things
I have two children that has never seen there real dad i am wanting him to lay child support with no visitation he is also not on the birth certificate due to me being 15 16 years old when I had my kids what do i need to do

Another is my husband has two chilseen from his marriage before and has to pay child support but he hasn’t seen them for years we’re moving and he wants to sign his right over

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Jeremy
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My ex is moving states…out of the blue..shes paid nothing so far anyway….so when she moves, how long untill i can get full custody for abandoning?

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Tiffany
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Is a parent paying court ordered child support quits there job and child support gets barred is that abandonment??? Hardly seeing your children, never asking how they are or anything???

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Angel
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My kids mom took my son and left me with my daughter she moved out before moving out. Now after 2 months she wants to come back and try to do stuff with my daughter is that considered abandonment

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Angel
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Now after 2moths she wants to come vmback and try to force my daughter to go spend time with her and since my daughter doesnt want to she wants to take me to court I need help

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Stig
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My wife and I divorced in 2011. I have taken care and raised my daughter alone since 2012. Since then her mother has literally disappeared and has made no contact with her since then. Legally, has she abandoned her parental rights?

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Danielle bondi
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My daughters father left our home 3 weeks ago no word from him an our daughter us six an doesnt understand what are my opions

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jmommy
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Would it be abandonment if husband and father of our two little boys leaves for work and is supposed to come home after work but doesn’t come home for a slightly over a week. Left wife and kids with no money for school, gas, food for the whole time gone

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Amelia F Owens
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Can I be got for abandoning my kids while there in foster care if I leave the county the case started in?

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Laurie Yankauskas
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What if the mother in jail for next 6 years and has been there for a year already

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Chriatia Connor
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My husband was stealing and was stealing for an addiction. When he was arrested he withholding the bank card house keys and I have no money to pay rent buy food we was supposed tp be insured by him he lied and didnt even put me on his account at the bank what do I do looking at Eviction and house hold of goods we acquired going to waste

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Mrs hill
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Would it be considered abandonment if my kids father drop them off at my house even after I tell him I’m not home? He had them from Tuesday and said he would drop them off Saturday even after I told him I’m out of town

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GUest
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If a child is fully supported by child support, but under court order to not have contact with the child unti the child is ready to do reunification, is that considered abandonment?

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Caleb Adams Sr
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PLEASE HELP!!!! Yesterday made a year since my wife just up an left. I’ve heard only once from her a month after she left which would’ve been in August of 2016. Since then I’ve received no calls texts or mail. She recieves Ssi on the first of the month in the amount of 733.00and on the one occasion we talked refused to help with supporting them. That goes from funds to medical help . My son still remembers her and has become an angry an confused child an emotionally distraught . As we are still married because she can’t be… Read more »
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Ashley
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If a mother is granted supervised visitation with a licensed agency but does not take advantage of the visits because she claims she can’t afford to pay for any visits is this considered child abandonment? She has never given any aid in financial support for the child and no physical contact in 6 months.

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Maggie
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My ex husband left on my daughters first birthday. It took nearly three years to fully divorce (4 months before her 4th birthday) and in that amount of time, he exercised his visitation only for the few months we were actively in court (monitored visits 1hr/week at a facility that provides this service.) It has now been over 10 months since he’s had any contact with our daughter whatsoever. He has never sent any correspondence to check on her wellbeing, sent any resource willingly- complete radio silence for two years, with a stint of visits, and now another 10 months.… Read more »
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Eric
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mother has been traveling the world for 1.5 years. has not given a date of return, only “I don’t know when I will return. ” does not provide financial support and medical support. Also, gave up apartment before leaving so last known address is invalid. the only form of communication is text message and viber call here and there. what type of custody I can I obtain if any?

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Victoria
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I have joint custody with my ex husband, but he hasn’t seen his daughter in 6 months. Texts her a few times a week to say goodnight and that’s it. He did this a year ago for 3 months, right when I filed court papers he picked her up. The judge favored with him and made her go back. After court he did the same thing only it’s 6months now. I’m afraid to file for sole custody because she might be forced to go back when he neglects her after the welcome back stage. What do I do? She’s worried… Read more »
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Danny E Linville
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My wife cheated on me then left the kids and I for him, she hasn’t helped me with any support and won’t do her parenting time with our 7 Yr old, hasn’t seen her but 1 time in 6 mths. Abandonment or not?

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Audrey
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Would if be considered abandonment if my adoptive stepfather left me with my mother and hasn’t contacted me in 7 years?

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Beth Grey
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I’m going to sound like the worlds most horrible person. But i put my kids to bed and went m.i.a for a week. I texted their dad to pick them up (now!) and waited 30 minutes (he lives about 40 mins away) The morning after i left police gave my kids to my mom. He never showed up . She hasnt texted me at all. Not sure why. They refused to let him have them. Not sure why. I havent been reported missing, police didnt arrest me.. But i feel bad for my mom and was wanting to call who… Read more »
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Julie
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I live in WA and my ex has not seen my daughter (6) in about 2.5 years (he only spent 45 minutes with her) and 6 months before that. His visits have never been regular. He’s made no contact with us since 2.5 years ago. I’ve reached out but nothing. We didn’t have a parenting plan set up that he’s breaking because I’m too nice and let him come and go as he pleases. Honestly she doesn’t even remember him and has no bond at all with him. If it doesn’t count yet when will?

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sheri
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I have been the guardian with full phys. and legal of two children for over 5 yrs. The parents were to have supervised visits, however, father in prison for over 2 yrs and mother failed to do the parenting aspect of the supervised visits, failed to show up even once on time, failed to pay her fines, etc. at what point would we be able to adopt due to abandonment of these two? Where would I start? w/o alot of legal fees.

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Abby
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16 year old pregnant child whos sister was given guardian ship. Sister allowed child to come to oklahoma from Kansas fir a week to attend baby shower. Sister wants 16 yr old to put baby in her care. Crib in her room ect. Sister now refusing to come get 16 yr old and has turned her in as a runaway. Is tjis abandament

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Carry Rhed
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Yes
Has the 16 year old considered emancipation?
Did you know in some states, if she marries between ages 16-18, she will become automatically emancipated and wont need court permission?
Look up emancipation requirements for your state.

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Terry Vestal
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I’m a 57 year old male. My mother and my sister live with me I am the main provider I own my house . Five years ago my sister’s grand child was drop off by both parents. She was told that they would be back to get the child when he could find a job . That he had lost his job and his placed to live the mother has never work at 40 years old. My sister had to go through hell just to get to where she could bring the child to the doctor . The child has… Read more »
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Mikayla
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During my divorce I moved out of state. 2011 There is a visitation order but it’s not been evenly shared bc of the move. I allowed ex to stay at my house(I left) for weekends of his choice. Freely open visits : any time. He stayed with kids for those weekends at my house. I moved again 2015- farther away- still with offer for him to stay at our house and see kids at anytime. He has done that twice- he stayed with me and my new husband at our house to visit kids. I have also payed for kids… Read more »
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Tabi
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how do I file for abandonment on my sons father to have his rights stripped? he has not seen his son since his 1st birthday and he is now about to be 3. I have no idea where he is and the court cant find him to serve him child support papers. but they wont help me they said they want to keep the family together.

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Marose
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Hi. Can we considered it as child abandonment if this is the case: The girlfriend of my half brother got pregnant, she is 20 years old and my brother is 32. A month before she gave birth they talked to me and told me that the will give the baby to me like “papaampon”. I accept their proposal and the moment she gave birth to a baby boy she left the baby to me. Now it’s been almost 3 months since I’m the one whose providing the basic needs of the baby. I have a communication with my brother and… Read more »
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